Look. I get it. I'm terrible at dating. WAIT! Lemme rephrase. Dating is terrible to me. That's right, dating is unkind to yours truly.I've been dating for years now with various websites and apps, on and off for the past eight years, by subtracting that time for the few relationships I've had in that timeframe - I'd say more like 3 to 4 years.
I realize love is a four-letter word. Just like most of my fav swear words. Coincidence? I think not!
So my relationship status has changed recently to: zero fucks given! In order to get my weight up on dating, and gain more insight, I read up about online dating nowadays. I read a fascinating post by Dan Oragui at MeetMindful.com which is on-point: The 6 Ugly Truths of Online Dating about online dating. #legit
- Men and women have vastly different experiences and outcomes
- You have eight seconds to persuade a match to respond to your message
- You will get rejected - a lot
- The richer you are the most responses you will get
- Online dating can cripple your self-esteem and self-worth
- Online dating is the perfect primer for learning how to sell yourself
Please don't misunderstand my message. I'm not above love or not wanting a relationship or a girl to be with. Dating simply sucks. Everyone reading this already nodded because they can acknowledge that!
The Seattle Freeze is real, and palatable, ever since the Renton woman was murdered. Which I completely understand, but that shouldn't CEASE dating, just be more mindful of who you meet in-person.
I digress.
In honor of David Lettermen, here's the top 3 items that are UN-wanted in the online dating community. No citations given because these are merely the musings of a man and his experience with online dating.
Number 3 - Desperation. The "smell" of desperation reeks from your text messages to social media posts to even how you dress. This isn't gender specific either! Now then, this is simply just addressing potential desperation. Some people are perfectly content with single life, to which I say, all the power to them! However that said, if you are seeking out a partner, then the longer it was been from your previous relationship or sexual encounter is an multiplier of desperation e.g. a person 4 years removed from a partner is theorized to be more desperate than a person 4 weeks removed.
Generally, once a potential partner has sniffed an eau du toilette of desperate, it'll be repellent for the duration. No amount pumice stone scrubbing will wash it away.
To me, I read that as needy therefore parasitic behavior in order to cure their desperation. No, thanks. #kthxbye
Number 2 - Zero Confidence. While confidence is an elixir to the opposite sex, then the inverse is true; zero confidence will not attract anyone. I'm confident it's signals the opposite sex / same sex that they'll have to play double duty for any long-term relationship (see what I did there?)
You'll appear as a Debbie Downer of sorts, Eeyore online, etc. That means they'll have to be a continuous cheerleader. And to quote Sweet Brown, "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
Number 1 - ... but one phenomenon that wasn't addressed in the referenced post, and I'm still baffled by it - its dating's MOST UN-wanted. Lemme clarify, it's the dating single, heterosexual woman most un-wanted: the dick pic!
I understand if you're sexting (another phenomenon I'll address later, too) one another that exchanging nudes would understood and ... wanted. There it is: wanted.
I researched article after article trying to find a causality for a man's first message to a woman, he doesn't know and vice versa, would be a dick pic with the words, "you have pretty eyes" then she would automagically run over to review it in-person. Ya know, documented proof that this actually happened.
Suffice to say, I didn't find it. It's beyond my scope of human logic on trying to understand why do my other bro's do this? Why, why, why, does my brethren engage in this behavior? As Joe Santagato would state in his tutorial on How To Slide Into A DM, "Lock the cock up, you moron!"
There's a reason why male genitals do not appear in classical art, or most art forms, yet female genitals do ... they are simply not accepted as beautiful. I'm confident that there are more attractive features that you can text over such as but not including all possibilities: eyes, smile, hair, six-pack abs, nice chest.
Anything but "THAT"!
Trust me when I say, I am not reeking of desperation, I'm brimming with confidence, and rest assured I'm not texting that garbage to women. It's a matter of time when dating will start being terrible to me, and be kind to me as much as I am to it.
This has been my C Note, click here to read my other notes.
'los; out
I digress.
In honor of David Lettermen, here's the top 3 items that are UN-wanted in the online dating community. No citations given because these are merely the musings of a man and his experience with online dating.
Number 3 - Desperation. The "smell" of desperation reeks from your text messages to social media posts to even how you dress. This isn't gender specific either! Now then, this is simply just addressing potential desperation. Some people are perfectly content with single life, to which I say, all the power to them! However that said, if you are seeking out a partner, then the longer it was been from your previous relationship or sexual encounter is an multiplier of desperation e.g. a person 4 years removed from a partner is theorized to be more desperate than a person 4 weeks removed.
Generally, once a potential partner has sniffed an eau du toilette of desperate, it'll be repellent for the duration. No amount pumice stone scrubbing will wash it away.
To me, I read that as needy therefore parasitic behavior in order to cure their desperation. No, thanks. #kthxbye
Number 2 - Zero Confidence. While confidence is an elixir to the opposite sex, then the inverse is true; zero confidence will not attract anyone. I'm confident it's signals the opposite sex / same sex that they'll have to play double duty for any long-term relationship (see what I did there?)
You'll appear as a Debbie Downer of sorts, Eeyore online, etc. That means they'll have to be a continuous cheerleader. And to quote Sweet Brown, "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
Number 1 - ... but one phenomenon that wasn't addressed in the referenced post, and I'm still baffled by it - its dating's MOST UN-wanted. Lemme clarify, it's the dating single, heterosexual woman most un-wanted: the dick pic!
I understand if you're sexting (another phenomenon I'll address later, too) one another that exchanging nudes would understood and ... wanted. There it is: wanted.
I researched article after article trying to find a causality for a man's first message to a woman, he doesn't know and vice versa, would be a dick pic with the words, "you have pretty eyes" then she would automagically run over to review it in-person. Ya know, documented proof that this actually happened.
Suffice to say, I didn't find it. It's beyond my scope of human logic on trying to understand why do my other bro's do this? Why, why, why, does my brethren engage in this behavior? As Joe Santagato would state in his tutorial on How To Slide Into A DM, "Lock the cock up, you moron!"
There's a reason why male genitals do not appear in classical art, or most art forms, yet female genitals do ... they are simply not accepted as beautiful. I'm confident that there are more attractive features that you can text over such as but not including all possibilities: eyes, smile, hair, six-pack abs, nice chest.
Anything but "THAT"!
Trust me when I say, I am not reeking of desperation, I'm brimming with confidence, and rest assured I'm not texting that garbage to women. It's a matter of time when dating will start being terrible to me, and be kind to me as much as I am to it.
This has been my C Note, click here to read my other notes.
'los; out
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